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The Art Of Attending A Concert Alone

Do you want to attend a show? Are your friends (if any) uninterested? By the looks of it, you may have to walk into the wild, ALONE. However, ne vous inquiétez pas, which means don’t fret or worry, because my guide is going to change your concert going life… forever.

(Post-show Dennys trip at midnight)
There’s no doubt in my mind that you have concerns, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading
this article (unless, maybe you’re just bored; I don’t know your life). The first few concert events you attend alone will consist of the same self-loathing questions:
  1. “What will happen?”
  2. “Will I be okay?”
  3. “Is this how babies are made?”

Something to keep in mind is that regardless of whether or not you go with someone, there will be fears and concerns. Often people refer to this as “You’re sad that you’re going alone to a concert and are worried about possible circumstances anxiety.” Seriously, it can be a very stressful and worrisome experience. Recalling my first show alone, I couldn’t stop thinking of what would happen if my ticket didn’t register as valid, how people would treat me, or what if I’m trampled, stomped on, etc. Anything could happen really, but letting those thoughts consume you is just going drain you emotionally before you even arrive at the event.

(CRX! Ft. Nick Valensi of the Strokes)

With every pro there are usually going to be some cons, especially depending on the kind of person you find yourself to be, an optimist, pessimist, realist, etc. In my opinion, not wasting time worrying about another being’s life is relieving. Although, if you’re a caring, loving, compassionate person with a decent heart, then good for you. Another good addition when attending a show alone is that people typically feel sorry for you and then befriend you based on pity. KIDDING, but you do tend to be able to make friends easier. It may have to do with there being less intimidation to talk to you due to the fact that you’re alone and not in a group. In the end, maybe somebody went alone as you did and you end up becoming friends based on that experience alone!

(Chincano Batman from beach goth!!!)
Concert based friends, the joy (to ensure, that was not sarcastic). Here’s a story to trigger your understanding emotions. February 13th, 2016. Seven concert junkies just so happened to arrive at the venue, Soma San Diego, six hours prior to the concert starting (yes, six hours). No doubt that at first, it was very awkward with short-living mumbles every so often. By the remaining three-to-four hours, we were all gathered in a circle, bonds were created and memories were made based on the shared admiration for the bands being displayed that night. That story is indeed my first lone concert experience and I’m happy to say that even today, those crazy concert junkies happen to be some of the most radical people I’ve had the pleasure to meet. Also, plot twist, two of them run this magazine.
In the end, keep in mind that everyone is there for the same thing, which is to enjoy the same musical experience. There’s no reason to worry or overthink, because regardless of whether you attend alone or with a group, you’re all sharing the night, and the bands are typically just as grateful for your love and support. After everything’s said and done, you can be left with some of the greatest memories you’ll ever treasure, and maybe some of the greatest people there are to treasure.
So on that note, blah blah blah, some sappy ending in hopes of encouragement! Good luck out there.
(During the finale of the Strokes at Gov Ball)

Article by Zoe Gandy

Photos by Ella Flaherty

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